Pampered kids?

Today before Kieron started his school, I had a chat with some of the parents over there. One of the aunties asked me if I married young. I said yes, married at 20, had my 1st kid at 21. Because I thought being a housewife is really a fun thing after seeing my mum being one at home for 20+yrs. Somehow I am wrong after being one myself. It's tough and full of challenges and stress. To look after the being and welfare from the youngest to the oldest (hubby) at home, to look after the state of own house too..

Then came another 2 aunties talking about modern parents spoilt the kids nowadays. One of them is a babysitter, I strongly agree what she says, kids need freedom, and they will learn and grow through falls and injuries (of cos not those serious one). The parent of the child whom she babysit is rather an extreme case. She gets agitated even seeing 1 moquito bite. I wonder who won't get mosquito bite. She even claimed she's worried her child will fall, so she laid mattresses all over her room when she takes her baby home during weekends. C'mon, you are over-protecting the kid.

That's what I don't like about. Some parents or grandparents are tooo sensitive towards baby. They say cannot let baby cry, but cannot keep carry baby too. Isn't it contradicting, how to soothe the baby if he's crying and not carrying him at the same time? Oh I Know! shake the whole bed, hahaha.. jz kidding... Some will think don't scold the kids. Kids need lesson, I let my elder son fall and climb up to his steps by himself, I want him to know that he falls cos he didn't walk properly when I already reminded him to, it hurts when he don't listen. I let my son put his own dirty clothes into the laundry bag himself, if he don't I won't wash, then he knows if he anyhow throw his clothes around, he won't have clean clothes to wear. However, soft methods and reasonings still have to be carry out at appropriate times. I do it when he's cooled down, or I can say when he's obedient, that moment then he's able to absorb the correct teaching. When he turns nasty, I will use the harsh method. I want him to know if he do wrong, there's no good consequence.

In my house, there's no such thing as bias, pamper or spoilt. However, when we are out of the house, I will give him more face. I will let him have some freedom. But, if he gets out of hand, after 3 times verbal warnings he still "deaf", I will just ignore him and walk off, I won't talk to a wall. Then he will behave himself. I can save energy shouting further and he will know that no one will bother him if he's naughty. haha... People will think I'm fierce. It's no fierce, its not to let him out of control, afterall he's still a kid, if you don't correct his wrongs when he's small. It will be even harder for him to understand when he starts to reach the rebellious stage.

It's Mid-Week!!

Today is a hot hot day till we don't have any mood to go shopping so we came back home once Kieron end his day of school. Our lunch -- yummy Ichiban sushi takeaway.



Once back home, Kieron got stuck in front of the laptop. Online games from http://www.miniclips.com



& Kayden is still grouchy today, not sick too.. Just wanting attention. He wants me to be by his side while he's napping.. When he sensed that I'm not around, he started to cry. Only stopped when I called his name and pat him back to sleep.. Think he got frightened, hence don't feel secure when sleeping.. Hope he will get well by night...

Looks Strange

After using this sarong for about 1.5mths, I realised Sporean are tooooo "modern".

Whenever I bring my son around using this sarong, people will usually look at me strangely. Some will come up to me and ask me "What's inside?", "Inside baby ah?", "So strange to have baby inside"

Their reactions only made me feel strange, cos most of the people who asked me are those mid 30s or older.. I remembered clearly my ah ma used to carry me around using this sarong when I'm very small.. That means this sarong tradition has been around for more than 20yrs. Why they are "mountain tortoise" (Suaku) than me lei? haha...

Some of the elders will say, "Don't wrap like that lah, baby seems miserable, wrapped up like a ball" My eyebrow will automatically twitch up. These people are really ignorant... Small babies especially premature babies, they like and need to be hug and wrap tightly, to have enough security and warmth that's crucial for their mental and physical growth. & if they are really tortured, do you think they still can sleep so peacefully and snoring away inside the sarong? -_-"'

This sarong is so much more convenient than pram, it saves space, saves energy moving it up and down stairs or even buses, and provides more hands to carry things or even hold elder kids. & so much affordable... Moreover, it will strengthen the bond between baby and mother too, the baby will feel the presence of the mother and feel much more safer...

Only hope Sporeans can have better knowledge towards babycare, and have flexibility in absorbing new information towards everything... Last of all, hope they have COURTESY and be HELPFUL... Some youngsters or even adults are so selfish, seeing me carry things, holding Kieron and with Kayden inside the sarong, no one will bother to let seat, even if not for me, at least for the little kid who is still young to balance in a moving bus. They will only stare at me, giving me strange eye contacts. Can't stand them.. What an ugly sight of Spore.

Dozing off tree

As I earlier mentioned in the previous post, it's a wet wet day today.


Not only wet, I happened to witness this tree, "dozing off" just beside my window. Felt dangerous.. What will happen if a car passby and this tree drop on it. What will happen if this tree fall onto my windows. haha...


The tree finally fell across the road, blocking the road between my block and another block. Cars unable to drive past. I called Town Council. Their service was rather fast, just 5mins after my call, they sent people over to move the tree aside.

Grouchy day - Tuesday (8th Apr 08)

Today both Kieron and Kayden were very grouchy. One refused to go to school when woke up in the morning, another kept making noises, trying to sleep and be alert at the same time.


Kieron looked like a panda this morning when he slept at 11pm. He got real excited and curious when he heard me talking over the phone with his dad about the robbery. He asked so much qs, "Who robbed Papa?" "Why he rob papa?" "Papa how to come home?" "No passport, police will catch Papa anot?" Till I threatened him with cane, then he willing to keep quiet and sleep.


As for Kayden, when we were out this morning. He was so alert that he refused to sleep inside the sarong, so I let him be in sitting position. He was really happy, kicking and waving his hands all the way from home till Kieron's school. Then he got
tired, he wanted to sleep so started being grouchy. I tried to pat him to sleep. He threw temper, cos he wanted to play at the same time but too tired to do so. Only way - cry lor.

Today is a wet wet day. With sudden heavy downpour with thunder and lightnings. I
had to postpone my marketing.. It had been always a headache to buy ingredients. Can't do so in the morning, because both sons sleeping. After son's school, weather be either be too hot or too wet. I can't handle 2 kids and plastic bags especially during the raining period. I only can wait till their dad's home, and I went out shopping on my own. But, it's already evening time.. Haiz.. Time is just not enough for me.

People always envy housewife, thinking they don't have to work and can rest at home. They are Wrong. Housewives had their own stress and tiredness as well..
For me.. Imagine daytime busy with 2 kids, 1 baby with 2hrs feeds, alert times for companion, another small kid to discipline, to coach, to keep an eye on. At the same time, doing household chores, preparing and cooking meals, washing and keeping clothes, tidying and keeping toys and books. By the time, everyone goes to sleep is the only time she has the time for herself. It's already midnight. There are many people asking me why I go to sleep so late everyday, my only answer, " I need some private time of my own to destress".

Hubby Being Robbed!!

Haiz.. Didn't know to say if this robbery is a lucky or unlucky one...

Hubby, together with another 2 friends and his younger bro went in Johor last night for supper.. Just before he left the house, I reminded him to be careful. Who knows at 10.30pm, he called and said he was robbed... I turned alert upon hearin the news when I almost doze off making 2 sons to sleep...

It happened within minutes.Right after they reached the destination, hubby's fren asked hubby to help him look after his waist pouch that consist the 4 guys' passports and S$8k cash of money. Just when hubby and his brother wanna cross over the road to catch some bites, there was this motorcycle sudden braked beside hubby. The cyclist caught hubby's attention because of the dangerous way of stopping. He rode off, did nothing. However, hubby caught sight of the bike's model and car plate, it's a Super 4 model and with Spore plate. Then the bike U-turn and stopped in front of them again, as if trying to ask for directions, at this moment, the cyclist snatched the pouch and rode off. Too late.... Everything happened too quickly that hubby only managed to shout "WEI". Only to say they were so careless to bring so much money to a foreign country that's well known of street robbery and "stupid" enough to put all 4 passports together with the money.

Luckily, none of them was hurt and hubby's IC wasn't lost, just his passport. & they were not robbed inside hubby's fren car. He had a new 7-seaters Honda just got a few months ago. Can't imagine they robbed and drove the car off if it really happen that way. Not only S$8k be gone.

By the time, they finished reporting to police and immigration. They reached Spore around 1am+. What a "splendid" supper trip...

According to the polices over there, they said the area around New York Hotel was well known for such robbery due to the existences of small alleys along the main road. Best hideout and best runaway routes. SO, drivers who liked to go Johor for cheap car wash, try to avoid New York Hotel's area which had a number of car wash shops at night or alone. Be ALERT at all times. Don't say woman is naggy or kiasee, but she is trying to prepare for the worst. Always expect the unexpected.

Kieron @ School

Today is Monday. Kieron woke up earlier than usual and went to watch Ben10 on Cartoon Network himself after failed at pestering me to wake up and accompany him. Hehe...

He's getting more independant now. He's able to wear socks, t-shirts and shorts by himself and with shoes on the correct foot.

Today, I went shopping at CWP during the 2hr waiting period with Kayden only.. It's
really a peaceful, relaxing moment. Without Kieron running around, I don't have to shout like an auntie, don't have to be a spiderwoman carrying things and holding him at the same time. But, think I'm getting weaker. For just 1.5hrs of walking non stop with baby sleeping inside the sarong, my back ACHED so much... Haiz...

After reaching home, couldn't rest much too. Cooked chicken mee sua soup for Kieron and hubby who's off for work today. Right after that, baby woke up, full alert.. I'm even breastfeeding and typing this with my right hand at the same time... Time isn't enough, have to cook dinner soon too... Sobz.. I WISH FOR A BREAK! EVEN if it's just 3hrs, but complete quiet 3hrs.. HOWEVER, it's impossible. hahaha.. Just daydreaming.. I'm trying hard not to doze off now..

Kayden is finally more alert and keen in playing now.. Because premature baby tends to sleep alot and will respond lesser compared to normal babies for the 1st few months..

It's a Fun Weekend!

On Saturday, Kieron spent most of his time playing with Kayden. To let Kayden becomes closer with Kieron, I carried him with me while accompanying Kieron during his playtime.


It seems they had fun! Kayden was aware of his brother's presence, whenever Kieron talked to him, Kayden would turn his head towards him.


It had been bad weather almost everyday during this week. It's soooo hot in the morning and noon, but with sudden heavy downpour in the evening.. Sianx.. To relieve the heat, ICE CREAM! keke..


On Sunday, I was sooo tired.. Much tired than usual day. I thought I could sleep after Kayden's usual last feed time at 2am.. I'm wrong this time.. Kayden woke up at 3am in the morning to play. He was smiling all the way, babbling.. Slept too much
since Saturday's evening till Sunday Morning. I was already dozing off when he's still kicking and moving non stop beside me.. Only till 5.30am, then he finally had signs of tireness.. Yeah!! But, by the time he finished his milk and fell to sleep. Just when it's time for me to catch some good sleep, my dear Kieron woke up at 8.30am.

Sobz...


Went Ichiban Sushi again in the late afternoon, but this time with my mum and youngest brother, Seng. I just love their Crispy Lobster salad roll.. Yum yum.. & Cheese Delight recommended by brother, Xiang too.. After that, Dad brought us to CCK stadium's restaurant.. The food was quite pleasant. Not that expensive too, affordable and comparable as normal coffeeshop "zhu chao" stalls. Just $88 for 6dishes, had Drunken Prawns, Crispy Roasted Chicken, Fried Soft Shell Crabs with coconut sauce, Four Seasons Vege, Szechuan Sour Spicy Soup and Nyonya Fish fillets. The ingredients used were really fresh. Too bad, it was raining. So we went straight home after the dinner...

My Laughing Buddha.. It's rather rare to see him laughing and smiling.. He's so much quieter compared to his elder brother...

Kayden's pretty awake today, he been alert since we went out at 3pm till night 10.30pm.. Hopefully he will sleep throughout till next morning. Haha..

Kieron is back to school

It's his very first time to wake up early in the morning urging me to be fast to bring him to school, after his 2 days of MC at home. He missed school and his bunch of good friends.

We got early to his school and he was so excited. He kept asking why his friends hadn't reach... Just when this little gal came. He shouted, "Ayanthi come le". He tried to attract her attention by playin psp in front of her. & He suceeded..


As usual, we went up to my mum place for a rest while waiting for Kieron to get off school at 1pm. During this 2hrs of waiting, Shi Xiang carried Kayden and played for awhile. Kayden laughed back to him and tried to communicate with his uncle Xiang. I'm so happy that he finally had some smiles.. Most of the time, he liked to frown at me though he loves sticking around with me...

Poo Poo trilogy..
In case, you can't see the words.
Picture from right -- Oh, tummy doesn't feel good...
Picture in center -- It's coming. Feel so uneasy..Mmmm
Picture at left -- Think it's out. My poo poo...

Today, some of the parents of Kieron's schoolmates came to play with Kayden. Because most of the time when we reached there, baby be sleeping.. But today, he's awake and looking around.. They commented that he doesn't look like a premature baby. & he looks solid with solid cheeks and solid limbs, they said some babies look chubby but with soft cheeks, kinda fake. Really happy to hear these compliments, that showed Kayden did grow.. Upon his prematurity, I'm so worried he had problem during his growing stage compared to normal full term babies. But think I'm wrong, maybe it's really destined he just have to come out earlier but with good health..


Today, hubby was off from work, so he's around to mess up with Kieron who's always so active at home.. & they always like to argue and have rough fights on bed..

Kieron tried to "silence" his dad.. When his dad answered every of his qs, he add up one pillow above his dad. haha... They made me laughed till tears came out while playing online game..
Looks scary ya.. keke..

Missing her so much - My Dearest Ah Ma

After reading the sweet love story of my ah gong and ah ma written by my brother in his blog, I had a mixture of feelings. I cried again...

Beginning, I felt really sweet because ah gong really treated ah ma very good. He let me know what is real marriage. Marriage that needs patience, understanding, determination, sharing of course not lacking sincerity. Ah gong is the best of all men I knew. He has really good temper, even when he's angry, he will not yell, he will remind us not to do it calmly. Although Ah Ma is the strictest in family, but I know she loved me alot. I started staying with her after I was borned. I had so much so much time spent with her. EVen when I'm in Secondary School, I will still lie on her lap, accompanying her watching her fav Cantonese dramas. But, after she got really ill. I no longer have the chance to stick with her like past anymore. It really hurt me so much whenever she had to spend impt dates in hospital, suffering.

After she moved out from her own house and stayed with my youngest uncle, I still continue to visit her with my family. After I gave birth to Kieron, her health started to deteoriate. I tried to cheer her up by bringing Kieron to visit her and printing his photos out to let her see when she felt bored..

The bad day finally came. She had to get her brain operated, because there's a blood clot inside. That very very very sad day was deeply imprinted inside my heart. I had the responsibility of accompanying her and my ah gong that day. Because my uncles and aunties had to work, they only could come later. So I, as the eldest grandchild, I stayed there since morning.. Ah Ma lost conscious after the operation. She had complications and lung infections, worse she lost her memory, she had to stay in ICU.. Everything happened so quickly that I never had the chance to chat with her anymore. During that period of critical days, I only had 1 chance to hold her hand calling her, "Ah Ma, wo lai le, ni yi ding yao qi lai". & It was my last time.

Days later, she left us. I felt really really guilty. I couldn't see her for the last time. I had to look after Kieron, as he's less than 1yr old, the adults worried he may got virus from hospital. So I could only stay at home, crying and scolding ownself. I couldn't believe my ah ma really left me. I kept saying sorry, I really wish ah ma could hear me, knowing how much I really miss her.

During her funeral, I fell ill. Really ill. I had high fever of 40C and I had shivers every few hours. But, I don't want to stay at home. I wanted to accompany her the very last few days before she was cremeted. I felt really bad when I couldn't kneel down to pay her respect when the priest was reciting the prayers on the last night of the funeral. During the 3days of funeral, Dad told us not to cry, so as to let ah ma leave this world in peace. But, I couldn't tolerate anymore, all single memories of ah ma and I had spent together flashed back. I went to hide at the staircase and cried badly silently. In the end, Mum and Ser Seng found me, they consoled me, they said ah ma won't be happy to see me in tears.

Till today, it had been 4 years. I still wish to dream of Ah Ma. Whenever I feel sad or confused and troubled, I will talk to ah ma. Hoping her to give me advices like what she would usually do when she's still alive. But, I was just being silly, I know it won't happen. Just a way to console ownself.

Ah Ma, no matter where are you now, in heaven or reincarnated, you'll always be inside my heart, my memory, I love you so much and I miss you dearly...

Ah Gong, you have to be strong and healthy. You have to continue be our strong ah gong, be optimistic and we'll always be there for you. You have to live long to see our kids, our grandchildrens running around you...

I hope I can be stronger too.. I don't know why I will still cry whenever I think of Ah Ma. Whenever I'm lost, I will "shout" for ah ma inside my heart. I wish Ah Ma can bless me to be a stronger person emotionally...
Do cherish everyone around you when they are still alive, no matter how bad or how good they treat you. Their presence with you come with a word - fate. There's always a purpose they r here. There's never a thing gonna last forever. Love them, forgive and forget, take and share.

Kieron had Nose Infection

Mischievious Kieron fell ill but doesn't behave ill.. hehe.. He started running nose a couple days ago. Till Wednesday's morning, he had thick greenish mucus whenever he sneezed. Even after wiping off the mucus, more watery ones started to flow out...


It's time for the doctor especially now is the "peak season" of flu and HFMD going on.. He's rather happy about it, cos he could be excuse from school.. However, when we're on our way to the clinic, we met 2 of his classmates. They greeted him and asked how come he's in home attire. He started to be hesistant about whether to go to school. Too bad, I stopped him. He's unwell and should prevent spreading to the others.. Hmmz.. Not very good..

The clinic was so packed till we went back to my mum's house to have lunch before going back to the clinic to wait for our turn. It took about an hour+. He had a nose infection caused by allergy. Doc advised to avoid air conditioned places and try to keep as warm as possible. And he got 2 days of MC.


After getting his MC, we walked to his school which is just a couple of blocks away. His friends were so excited and curious upon seeing him outside the door. All asked why he didn't go to school. He's so cute, replied them in a happy tone, "I AM SICK!" He even told his Malay teacher, Mdm Siti in Mandarin, "I no need to go to school lei" Horrible, playful boy. haha..

We went up my mum house for a rest, only went home at night. He did not behave like a sick boy at all, he was so active till his elder uncle, Xiang, wanna "kill" him. Hehe.. He kept interrupt his nap. He jumped here and there, talked and played so much.


My brother went to do some marketing at Cold Storage, and came home to cook Macaroni Soup for all of us.. Quite a big change to see him cooking. My very first time seeing him cooking a decent meal but not Maggie Mee. Haha.. A good attempt.. More practices will make it perfect..

A sleepy, tired day.. My shoulders started to feel numb even if I use my fingernail to poke my flesh... How I wish I can have a proper sleep, even it's just 3hours. haha..

Kieron & Kayden at home(Part2)

Today is a HOT HOT day.. But a wet wet day during the evening too..
The weather just sooo horrible these few days.. But I have a weather forecast boy at home.. And he's Kayden.. Whenever it's going to rain, there's one thing he will be doing.. Spitting bubbled saliva, just like tadpole eggs gather on his lips.. & it's really accurate lor, whenever he does that, less than 1hr, it will start raining..


Today he's very alert.. Normally when we go to fetch Kieron off school, he will be sleeping inside the sarong I always carry over my body. But today he refused to sleep inside, and alert throughout till we reached home. Kieron's schmates parents commented he as a cute baby and resemblance his elder brother alot.. hehe.. (Same factory ma..)

Today cooked nasi lemak as dinner... I liked the sambal chilli, it's from SingLong brand, very fragrant and not too spicy till scary too.. I always fry the sambal with
ikan bilis, it's a great combination to go with coconut rice or even fried beehoon.. Tried a new type of luncheon meat, it's fish.. hmmz.. Not very good taste, it really taste like fish -- fishy..



Kayden loves music alot..

Today gonna sleep early, not going to wait for Kayden's last feed.. I'm collapsing soon, soooo tired........ Yawnz...